That people cheat is not news. About 25-33% of Americans admit to having cheated at some point. Although many people disapprove of it, it still happens, and the reasons why men cheat often remain unknown. But our men! Why would men cheat?! There are several reasons for that. Some you can see coming, others seem less logical…

• Here are the top 5 reasons why men cheat, and ways to ensure that your loved one doesn’t ‘eat outside’ but keeps enjoying sweets with you.

Working a lot, having busy days, quickly (eating) together, and hanging out on the couch in the evenings. The interest in and attention to each other slowly faded away. That he loves you is certain. But there is tension. It was the fireworks that it all started with. Those nauseating butterflies were in his stomach. They’re all in sleep mode. Just like your relationship. He’s looking for excitement and sensation but doesn’t find that at home anymore.

By the way, read this article on how to create emotional attraction with him: Creating Emotional Attraction: 8 Deep Connection Tips

And yes, some men then find themselves in situations where that is available. In the pub, for example, with plenty of watery gold in his belly. There, his boundaries of what is acceptable are continuously shifting. You see it coming… He slips up! Although it wasn’t his intention, it did happen. Can he do something about it? Yes, of course. But it’s not just your stagnant relationship that’s the cause. Sometimes you can take the beast out of the party, but not the party out of the beast…

Fortunately, there’s a silver lining on the horizon! Do you want to see a simple step-by-step method to know if your partner is cheating (in less than 7 days). And a highly effective strategy to identify their lover without hiring a private investigator. If you suspect your partner is cheating on you, this will be the most important article you will ever read.
But now, back to our article…

1: Let him chase you

We’ve long known that men want to hunt. He wants to be that strong lion who scares away all the other lions with loud roaring and seduces that desired lioness. That’s just in his nature. If he then has that perfect woman (you!), the game is over… The hunt is over, and the prey is in.

You think you’re in the perfect situation and he, well, he can get bored. Keep it exciting! Don’t give in to him too easily, and occasionally play that shy antelope on the Savannah. Make him work for you! It’s all in the game…

• Be independent – he’ll have to do his best to take care of you.
• Do things without him – if he wants your time, he’ll have to show his best side.
• Wear a challenging, sexy outfit – whistling construction workers and such ;).

2: How you can be the perfect woman

From biology, it is argued that men want as many women as possible to increase their chances of offspring. It’s not such a crazy idea when you consider that a woman is stuck with a baby in her belly for nine months. In all that time, no more babies are made… The more different women, the more children a man can conceive in that time. So, he wants to sow.

Fortunately, our men love a challenge. So, make sure he wants you so badly that he can resist other women. Because other women are just there. Let him (subtly) know that you’re that one fantastic woman. And the only one he wants a baby with.

How can you do that?

• Take good care of yourself. If you can’t care for yourself well, how can you raise a child?
• Be kind but fair – don’t make unrealistic demands on your man. Also, reward him with compliments when he does something you ask of him. For example, lowering the toilet seat by himself.
• You are not only a mother but also the most fun woman – your relationship is not just about having children. You are, in addition to being the best mom, also the most interesting, fun, and sweet woman.

3: Give Attention

We all want to be appreciated. Someone who tells us how fantastic we are. Now it just so happens that in most relationships, at some point, some routine can arise. You still think he’s fantastic, but the novelty is gone.

You know his most positive sides and his less positive ones. But that new colleague of his, she doesn’t know anything yet. And she shows a lot of interest. They have nice conversations, and he feels a connection with her. Or that interested woman at the bar. She looks at him with radiant eyes and wants to know everything about him. What attention! He enjoys it to the fullest and feels seen again.

This attention can make him realize that the interest and attention between you have decreased a bit.

This is how you can make him feel more appreciated:

• Take him to a new place – discovering new places together provides new impulses and new conversation topics.
• Show interest – when was the last time you asked him how he felt? Or what would he like to do/achieve in his life? What are his dreams?
• Give him your full attention – the dishes are done. Children are in bed. Don’t sit together on the couch watching TV tonight. Grab the massage oil and give him that well-deserved, extensive full-body massage.
• Have sex in a crazy place – you may have been living together for a long time, but have you ever done it on the washing machine? Or in the shed? Lure him to a crazy place and have heated sex. (what you give is what you get: a big chance that he’ll give you more attention too!)

4: Create Tension in Bed

By now, you’ve had the bedroom, living room, kitchen, bathroom, side table, and backseat of the car. You know exactly when to stop to postpone his orgasm and he knows every sensitive spot on your body. That one mole on his left buttock is so familiar to you that it almost feels like it’s part of your own body. Yes, the sex is fantastic because you know each other inside out. But exciting sex? That’s been a while…

• Spoil yourself – shop for that beautiful (too expensive) new lingerie. This makes you feel sexier, which makes you irresistible to him!
• Exercise – Exercise produces testosterone. You need testosterone to get excited. Nice side effect: having sex produces more testosterone. Sex leads to more sex!
• Break the routine – you have sex on Sunday evenings as standard. Always about the same routine. It’s time for a change! Challenge him to a crazy place on an unexpected day. And this time, not what you always do but try a new position. Even if it’s not immediately the hottest, it does create a lot of fun.

Read also the article 7 Simple Tips to Keep a Conversation Going with a Man

The secret 5th tip: masculinity vs femininity

You may have already discovered it a bit in the first 4 tips. A successful relationship has two important ingredients:

• A deep connection
• Sexual attraction

Now, it’s not only necessary for that sexual attraction to do the things you read above, it’s equally important that he feels truly manly and of course that you feel truly feminine.

Today, women also pursue careers and are independent. So, we don’t really need that man, no matter how nice he is. However, a man only really feels top-notch manly when he can do things for you that you can’t do yourself. When he can be the leader and notices that you need and appreciate that.

The opposite, you taking the lead, is actually killing for the attraction.

See that attraction as two opposite poles that attract each other: masculinity vs femininity. When you take on a more masculine role yourself, you get two equal poles. And they repel each other. Although a role play in bed is never wrong every now and then.

• Ask him to make choices where you would do it differently. “Honey, I can’t choose, what do you think is the best/delicious/smartest?”
• Leave the DIY jobs in the house to him. There’s nothing sexier for a man than a woman who asks if he can replace a lamp.
• When something needs to be done and he doesn’t take action, instead of talking dominantly to him, present it as a problem he needs to solve and that you need his leadership in that.

You’ll be surprised what happens then!

In short: even though some men cheat, with the above tips you can work on it yourself to prevent it.