He says he’s too busy for you. Or you notice he’s busy because he never texts or makes plans. Is that the truth? Or does he not like you that much after all?

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Is a man lying when he says he’s too busy for you?

If you’re dating a man who’s (too) busy with his career and who knows what else… Is that really the case?

In a way, he’s not lying.

Indeed, he’s spending his time on all sorts of things other than you.

So, the question you asked yourself: “Is he really that busy?” is not the right one.

You’d better ask yourself where you stand on his priority list and why.

Your importance to him determines how much time he spends on you.

I believe a man will make time for you if you’re enough of a priority.

That’s a bold opinion, but I notice as a dating coach from the stories around me and from my own experience that men easily make time for a woman when they form a connection.

There are, of course, exceptions. If he makes time in 90% of cases and is sometimes very busy with something.

Everyone has periods in their lives when so much is happening that it’s almost impossible to make time for love. But we’re still talking about priorities.

Someone’s career is a priority over you. His sick mother is a priority over you. Right now, sports events and his friends are a priority over you.

That’s what he’s doing with his time. Believe him. It starts with accepting that.

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Can a man be too busy for someone he loves?

Certainly! While someone can be genuinely occupied with various commitments, including work, family, and personal responsibilities, being “too busy” for someone they love is often more about priorities than actual time constraints.

Love involves making time for each other, even amidst busy schedules. When someone claims to be too busy for a loved one, it can indicate a lack of prioritization rather than an insurmountable schedule.

In a healthy relationship, both partners strive to balance their individual lives with their shared time together. They find ways to make each other a priority, whether it’s through regular communication, planning quality time together, or offering support during busy periods.

However, if one consistently prioritizes other aspects of life over the relationship without making efforts to accommodate their partner, it may signify deeper issues like communication problems, mismatched priorities, or a lack of emotional investment.

Ultimately, being “too busy” for someone you love is often a matter of choice rather than circumstance, highlighting the importance of open communication and mutual respect in maintaining a fulfilling relationship.

How do you know if a busy man loves you?

Determining if a busy man loves you requires careful observation and communication. Here are some signs to consider:

1. Effort to Stay Connected: Despite his busy schedule, he makes consistent efforts to stay in touch with you through calls, texts, or brief check-ins.
2. Prioritization: He actively prioritizes spending quality time with you when he can, even if it means adjusting his schedule or making sacrifices.
3. Thoughtfulness: He shows thoughtfulness and consideration by remembering important dates, events, or details about your life, even amidst his busy routine.
4. Open Communication: He communicates openly about his schedule, commitments, and future plans, demonstrating transparency and a willingness to involve you in his life.
5. Emotional Support: He provides emotional support and reassurance, even when he’s busy, by actively listening to your concerns and offering comfort or advice.
6. Respect for Your Time: He respects your time and commitments, understanding that you also have a life outside the relationship.
7. Future Planning: He includes you in his plans and goals, indicating a long-term commitment and desire to build a life together.
8. Actions Speak Louder: He demonstrates his love through actions, such as thoughtful gestures, acts of service, or making time for special occasions, despite his busy schedule.

Consistent demonstration of care, effort, and prioritization of the relationship amidst his busy life are key indicators that a busy man loves you. However, open communication and mutual understanding are crucial for clarifying expectations and maintaining a healthy relationship dynamic.

What is an appropriate response to someone who says they are too busy to commit to anything right now?

An appropriate response to someone who says they are too busy to commit to anything right now depends on the context of your relationship and your personal feelings. Here are a few potential responses:

1. Understanding and S0upportive: “I understand that you’re busy right now, and I respect that. Let me know if there’s anything I can do to support you during this time.”
2. Express Your Needs: “I appreciate your honesty about being busy. While I understand your situation, I also value clarity in our relationship. Can we discuss what this means for us moving forward?”
3. Set Boundaries: “I understand that you’re busy, but I also need to consider my own needs and priorities. Let’s find a way to balance both of our schedules so we can spend quality time together.”
4. Express Your Feelings: “I hear that you’re busy, and I respect that. However, I also want to express that I value our connection and would like to find a way to maintain it, even amidst our busy lives.”
5. Reassess Expectations: “It sounds like now might not be the best time for us to commit to anything. Let’s take a step back and revisit this when we both have more time and clarity.”

The most important thing is to communicate openly and honestly about your feelings and needs while also showing understanding and respect for the other person’s situation.

Is he really busy or avoiding me?

Determining whether someone is genuinely busy or avoiding you can be challenging, as it depends on various factors such as communication patterns, past behavior, and your intuition. Here are some signs to consider:

1. Consistency in Communication: If people consistently communicate openly with you about their schedule and commitments, they are likely genuinely busy. However, if they frequently make excuses to avoid interacting with you, it could be a sign of avoidance.
2. Quality of Interaction: Notice whether the person seems genuinely engaged and interested when you do interact. If they appear distracted or disinterested, they might be avoiding you.
3. Excuses vs. Efforts: Evaluate whether the person makes efforts to reschedule missed interactions or prioritize spending time with you when they can. Genuine busyness is often accompanied by efforts to maintain the relationship despite the constraints.
4. Intuition: Trust your instincts and how you feel about the situation. If you consistently sense avoidance or inconsistency in their behavior, it’s worth exploring further.
5. Past Behavior: Consider the person’s behavior patterns in the past. Have they shown a consistent willingness to make time for you, or has avoidance been a recurring theme?

Open and honest communication is key. If you’re uncertain about the person’s intentions, consider addressing your concerns directly and respectfully to gain clarity.

Is being too busy a red flag?

Being consistently “too busy” can indeed raise red flags in a relationship. While occasional busyness is normal and understandable, chronic busyness may indicate deeper issues. It could suggest a lack of prioritization, communication problems, or emotional unavailability.

Consistently claiming busyness may be a sign of avoidance or unwillingness to invest time and effort into the relationship. It might reflect a lack of commitment or interest in fostering connection.

Moreover, being too busy can lead to neglect of the relationship, causing feelings of neglect or resentment in the partner. It can strain communication and intimacy, leading to dissatisfaction and unhappiness.

However, it’s essential to consider context and communication. Sometimes, being busy is genuinely unavoidable due to work demands or personal obligations. In such cases, open and honest communication about priorities and commitments is crucial to maintaining trust and understanding in the relationship.

Overall, while occasional busyness is normal, consistent busyness without effort to prioritize the relationship may indeed be a red flag warranting further discussion and evaluation within the relationship.

Please stop trying to get his attention

If he sees that you have your own life… and your own fun events…

If he sees that you hang out with your own friends and make sure you’re busy and having a good time yourself…

then it might happen that he’ll look you up later and that you won’t have time for him because you happen to be going to a party.

The point is not to fake this, because then you miss the point. If you’re genuinely busy, he’ll feel more attracted to you. That’s because you create your own gravity and no longer orbit around him.

Respect for your time and schedule

What dampens the attraction on the other hand is when he calls you and you’re always available.

You make yourself scarce when you occasionally don’t have time when he wants to meet you. That will make him want to reserve his place in your schedule well in advance.

And that’s exactly what determines how high you are on a priority list. That, and of course how long you’ve known each other and how good the bond you have is.

But for the most part, you need to enforce respect for your schedule and time with you by having your own life.

If you’re always available, he can call you last minute when he has nothing else to do. He never has to consider you or your schedule.

You might do the same if he were available every day. If he suddenly has to wait a week to see you, he’ll appreciate you more.

Not because you’re acting busy, but because he can’t have you when he wants to. It makes him aware that he has to make an effort to see you when he wants.

Should you pretend to have a busy life now?

You also have silly rules like: “Never accept a date for Friday on a Wednesday”.

But that’s not the same as what I’m suggesting here.

That rule itself may make you end up totally bored on the couch watching a dull series because you absolutely want to cancel that guy for a date after he’s a day late with booking.

What you’re mainly doing here is depriving yourself of a good time. That’s desperate ;). Faking a life is very different from building an interesting life.

It’s much cooler to create a life than to fake one. So, create a fun life, alongside his.

And when he sees you in your own amazing life, he can look at you and think about what you have to offer.

You’re a cool person because you have a fun world in which you can involve him.

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Believe me, the last thing he’ll do is change his behavior because you ask him why he doesn’t have time for you. All that will do is make him run away hard…

or suddenly he gets very busy again.