It happens to you every time…
You’re dating a nice guy and starting to like each other, but every time it still ends up going nowhere.
You can’t seem to build a deep connection with a guy. What’s going wrong?
I’ll give you 8 enlightening tips in this article to evoke emotional attraction.
After reading this article, you’ll know how to build an emotional connection with a man.
Creating a deep connection with a man
You meet different men, but ultimately, the contact remains superficial, and you never delve deeper. What could be the reason for this? How can you evoke emotional attraction? Firstly, the question is whether you’re dating a man who is right for you. But if you are, then the question is whether you’re subtly indicating that you’re genuinely interested in him in the right way. If you know how to do that attractively, you can build that emotional bond with a man.
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How do you build emotional attraction?
Maybe you recognize it. You have regular contact, several fun dates, and good sex… But that’s where it stops. You’re stuck at the dating level, and you just can’t seem to get to the relationship level. You would prefer to have a deep connection with a man, but it never happens… When this is the case, you’re not necessarily doing anything wrong. The problem lies in the lack of emotional attraction between you two. In other words: the attraction is there, but there’s no deeper emotional charge yet (I’ll explain more about this later).
Eliciting emotional attraction sounds just as difficult as it is. At least… if you don’t know how to evoke emotional attraction properly, it becomes quite difficult. Fortunately, in this article, we have bundled all our expertise in the field of emotional attraction to provide you with simple and clear tips, so you know how to evoke this specific type of attraction in a man and he will choose you one hundred percent.
Go through these phases first
Emotional attraction is like a fire. It starts with one small spark, and eventually, it becomes a crackling, big fire. That’s exactly how it works when you want to evoke emotional attraction.
Emotional attraction takes time, and eliciting this form of attraction requires patience. You can’t expect a man you’ve just started dating to show his complete emotional side and attach himself to you. To ensure that chemistry develops between you, you must first go through two phases.
The first phase is the attraction phase. Note: this is about physical attraction, not necessarily emotional attraction. You feel this attraction when you find a man physically attractive and when you flirt with him.
When both of you are physically attracted to each other and you slowly build a connection, chemistry develops. And so, you enter the second phase: the chemistry phase.
The chemistry phase is where you find out what you have in common, and in this phase, you also find out if someone is right for you or not. This phase can last quite a while, and this is exactly the phase in which emotional attraction can ultimately develop.
Before you can reach this chemistry phase, you must first reach the physical attraction phase. Then you need time and patience to evoke emotional attraction. It’s important to know that emotional attraction cannot be evoked in every man during the chemistry phase.
There is one specific requirement he must meet for you to generate emotional attraction. If he doesn’t meet this requirement, generating emotional attraction in him is virtually impossible. And if there’s no emotional attraction? Then you often end up as friends with benefits:
See if he’s ready for a relationship
I’m going to tell you something very annoying: You can’t get into a relationship with EVERY man. Of course, this image is portrayed in movies, books, and series. “If you truly love him and believe in love, you’ll definitely get into a relationship with him.”
But unfortunately, this is not always the reality. And that has everything to do with the following: his relationship readiness. You could define ‘relationship readiness’ as the degree to which he is open to a relationship. This can vary greatly from man to man. Imagine you have a scale from 1 to 10 when it comes to relationship readiness.
- 1= = totally not ready/open for a relationship.
- 10 = 100 percent looking for a relationship.
The lower his score, the smaller the chance that you can evoke emotional attraction. With such a man, you may still reach the chemistry phase, which means you’re physically attracted to each other and have things in common, but the chance of growing from this chemistry phase into an emotional bond with such a man is quite small.
Don’t get me wrong: this doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you. What it mainly comes down to is that he’s completely closed off to emotional attraction. He doesn’t want to commit. When someone is truly not ready for a relationship, evoking emotional attraction becomes very difficult… but not always impossible.
It has everything to do with certain fears that a man has regarding relationships. You’ll read in this article how to exactly resolve those fears. But in the better case, if you’re currently dating a man who is open to a commitment, Then you have a much better chance of evoking emotional attraction.
Don’t be too available
This insight is very important. If you like him and you want to build a deep connection with him, it’s very logical that you want to show him that you’re interested. You want to meet up, text him often, and call him regularly.
But because you’re so clearly showing your interest, the challenge is completely gone. A man likes to feel that he has conquered you. Because that says something about his masculinity when you respond to that.
But if you offer yourself too easily, there’s nothing left to conquer. Always being available isn’t that interesting.
So, to evoke emotional attraction, you have to be a challenge for him. You can do this in various ways:
- Don’t respond immediately to his messages.
- Give him more attention one day than the other.
- Make him miss you.
- Tease him occasionally.
Don’t be too hard to get
This might be confusing. First, I say you shouldn’t be too available, and now I say you shouldn’t be too hard to get either… what’s that all about? Of course, you want to be a challenge for a man.
If you’re not, he’ll feel less emotional attraction towards you. But you don’t want to make him feel like his attempts to seduce you leave you completely cold. Men actually have quite a small ego. Confirmation that a woman likes him feeds his ego.
A man likes that. But as soon as he doesn’t get that confirmation at all, his ego isn’t fed at all either. A man likes that much less. What many women hope to achieve by playing hard to get is that he’ll think this: “Oh wow, she’s not easy at all. She’s very different from all the other women, and now I’m going to try extremely hard to get her.”
But the thought he actually gets when you play excessively hard to get is this: “Hmm… apparently she doesn’t like me. Well, then I won’t invest any more time in her.”
Men don’t want their ego to be hurt by a woman at all costs and will protect themselves if they notice that a woman is too hard to get. If you want to evoke emotional attraction in a man, you want to ensure an ideal combination of a challenge on the one hand but not too hard to get on the other hand.
Pull and push
Men and magnets have one thing in common. They push away and pull towards. And coincidentally, this is also very important in the process of evoking emotional attraction.
Just like in judo, when you first push an opponent away and then pull hard towards you, you create momentum to make a beautiful throw. In love, it works in much the same way: When you attract and repel a man, you create momentum to evoke emotional attraction.
This push and pull (also called ‘push-pull’) is the ideal way to evoke emotional attraction. You can see push-pull as the perfect combination of being hard to get on the one hand and being available on the other hand.
Because push-pull behavior creates a rollercoaster of emotions in his male brain, keeping him interested in you. Push-pull can be realized in many different ways:
- Send more messages one day than the other.
- Give him compliments but tease him as well.
- Make the space between you smaller and then larger again.
- Touch him a lot and then reduce your touches.
Never make him feel like you DON’T like him
In short, there are many different ways to apply push-pull in practice, so you can evoke emotional attraction. But be careful: you never want to give him the impression that you don’t like him.
So, make sure that when you push him away, it happens in a playful, light, and flirtatious way. Ignoring him or putting him down will only backfire. Just give him a little less attention so he’ll long for more.
The reason why push-pull works so well for evoking emotional attraction is that contrasting emotions are evoked. The more alternating emotions you can evoke in him, the greater the emotional attraction between you two becomes.
Be sexy and sweet
There are two qualities that men love about a woman. Sexy and sweet. The funny thing is that these two qualities have little to do with each other. They form a great contrast. This is exactly the contrast that evokes emotional attraction in a man. Because on the one hand, a man wants a woman who is sexy:
- A woman who dresses femininely and sexy.
- A woman who knows what men want in bed.
- A woman who knows how to seduce.
- A woman who can create sexual tension (for example, through dirty talk).
On the other hand, men want a sweet woman who takes care of him:
- A woman who compliments him.
- A woman who takes care of him when he’s sick.
- A woman who encourages him to achieve his goals.
- A woman who cooks for him occasionally.
If you can combine the two elements of ‘sexy’ and ‘sweet’ in your own behavior and behavior towards him, it will work like fireworks in his male brain.
Naturally, men are looking for women who have these two qualities in them. When a man realizes that you possess this magical combination, he’ll feel emotionally attracted to you much faster than if you only have one of these two qualities. It’s like this: Are you purely and only sexy?
Then he’ll see you more as a casual fling with whom he goes to bed regularly. But if you’re only sweet, he won’t see you as a sexual woman, but rather a woman with whom he can ‘just have a good conversation’.
You’re more of a friend to him than an attractive and sexual woman. But if you’re both sexy and sweet, then you have the perfect combination to emotionally attract a man.
Be vulnerable
If you want to evoke emotional attraction in a man, you have to go deeper than the surface. By this, I mean going beyond just ‘superficial conversations’ (about the weather, what you did today, what kind of work he does, etc.).
The idea is that you can make a deep connection with a man by getting a certain degree of emotion, depth, and especially vulnerability into your conversations. The problem is that men are rational beings who often stay on the surface themselves and rarely talk about emotions or give their conversations an emotional charge.
One reason for this is that men have a small and fragile ego, making it difficult for them to expose themselves, especially to women. You can only evoke emotional attraction when he dares to be vulnerable. Actually, it’s very simple as long as you’re aware of the going-first principle. A good example leads the way! Make sure you’re the first to be vulnerable.
This doesn’t necessarily have to be an extremely difficult and personal story… It’s mainly about being able to talk about the ‘why’ behind the things you do. Tell him why you do the work you do right now. Tell him why you have certain passions or hobbies and what these passions and hobbies do for you.
As soon as you take the step to reveal something about yourself first, he’ll feel safe to do the same with you. This way, you can ensure that men reveal more about themselves, resulting in more personal conversations with men and faster emotional attraction between you two, instead of staying on the surface.
Summary – From emotional attraction to deep connection
You now have the tips you need to evoke emotional attraction between you. Now it’s a matter of making sure he falls head over heels in love with you! I have something for you to help you with that…
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